People Pleasing - Sometimes it's a means to survival

"People pleasing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival strategy.”

At first glance, this statement might feel jarring. Maybe even a little personal.

For many of us, people pleasing began as a way to stay safe, avoid conflict, and feel accepted when our authentic selves didn’t feel welcome or unsafe.

Unfortunately, this coping mechanism can start to wear you down. People pleasing becomes a mask, and will start to make you feel drained.

That mask isn’t you.

And you don’t have to keep wearing it.

In recovery, whether from trauma, substance addiction, or more, the journey begins by turning inward.

Learning to let go of people pleasing means learning how to:

• Identify your own needs (without guilt)

• Honor your own needs (without apology)

• Set boundaries (without fear)

• Build authentic relationships (without performance)

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These aren’t easy shifts. They take time. But they’re possible!

And this is where Music Therapy comes in.

If words feel hard, or you’re not sure where to start, music can be a powerful tool.

In music therapy, you’re not performing. You’re exploring.

🎵 Through music, you can:

• Safely express your emotions

• Reconnect with parts of your identity you’ve hidden

• Discover what feels true for you—without the pressure to please anyone else

  
  

Music becomes a space where you get to take up space.

To be heard.

To be whole.

To heal.

You’re allowed to take up space.

You’re allowed to find your voice.

You’re allowed to heal.

💙 And music therapy can help you begin.